Here’s the deal. I hate playing the “this person” game on LJ, but in this case I’m going to – simply because anyone who doesn’t know what I’m talking about really doesn’t need to be involved.

I have two local friends who have become very dear to me. These friends have had some problems in their relationship due to continued unwanted attention from one of their ex’s. I want my friends to feel comfortable discussing their lives on my journal, and I want to feel comfortable discussing my interactions with them as well. In my humble opinion their lives should not be discussed with the ex, no matter how inconsequential the details that are being discussed may seem.

I do not believe that anyone had ill intentions in this situation. In fact, I think quite the opposite is true. I also know the pain that is caused when saying something that should not be said while trying to do the right thing. I’ve done it many times in the past. I have often suffered from a bad case of “foot in mouth” syndrome when I said something that, in retrospect, I really shouldn’t have said. I am, however, obligated to place my loyalty in the people that are important to me. Despite the intentions that spawned them, if the actions of an individual risk hurting the people I love it is probabaly best that I sever ties with that individual.

No hard feelings. This is a logical decision more than anything. I mean no slight, but I fear one will be taken regardless. Be that as it may, I feel this is something I need to do.

So there it is.