It’s People

Back in 2021 I took a Lean Six Sigma Green Belt certification class. It’s been five years since I took that class, and I haven’t completed my Green Belt project to become an official Green Belt, but that wasn’t really my goal at the time (and, frankly, it’s still not a priority of mine, even though I still want to get my official Green Belt at some point). I took the class in the spirit of the 7 Habits of Highly Effective People, specifically “Seek first to understand, then be understood.” A few years earlier we had hired a new CFO at our organization who came from GE and had extensive experience with Lean Six Sigma. Our Senior Leaders, who I was working with on a regular basis, were being taught about DMAIC and how it could apply at our company, and as I was one of the key figures in determining how we executed on strategic initiatives I figured it was important for me to understand what was being taught to the folks I was working with.

I learned a lot when I took that class. I learned that Lean Six Sigma was predominantly used in manufacturing, specifically in finding ways to eliminate waste and reduce defects. I learned that Lean Six Sigma was not a Project Management framework, even though when someone attempts to improve a process using DMAIC it is referred to as a project. As someone who absolutely loves data, I was enamored by how much Lean Six Sigma practitioners rely on data analysis to achieve their goals. I learned that Lean Six Sigma was not anti-Agile, and that if done properly the two methodologies could easily work together and produce some spectacular results.

The most valuable lesson I learned, however, is about what I perceive to be a misperception around Lean Six Sigma. I heard, and was myself convinced, that it was a soulless way of looking at human labor. That it was very Taylorist in that it treated people as cogs in a machine, and that if they just did exactly what they were supposed to do and followed the right process everything would be perfect.

What I learned instead was that, in the Lean Six Sigma world, “People are never the problem. Your process is.”

What this meant, according to my instructor, was that if people were not following a process, it was because they were incentivized not to do so. That circumventing all or part of a process served their needs better than following that process. That, in most cases, people want to do a good job and do not avoid a process because they are bad actors. They do so because not following the process makes their lives easier in some way.

In other words, having good processes is incredibly important, but if you didn’t focus your efforts on serving the people who are meant to execute them, they were bound to fail.

Sounds kind of familiar from an Agile perspective, doesn’t it? Individuals and Interactions over processes and tools anyone?

I saw this play out during a senior leader meeting a few years ago. We were reviewing our homegrown enterprise work management process, and we were looking for input on how to improve it. We had printed out flowcharts that detailed all the steps required to get an initiative through the complete lifecycle at our organization. Our new VP of Application Development (so new that he had not “officially” started and had flown down just to take part in this summit), held up the piece of paper and folded it in half so that the start and end points were touching. “If I can do this,” he said, “and get my projects done without going through all of these steps…why wouldn’t I?”

He was right. It was possible to get projects done without going through all those steps, and in many cases a leader did so they were able to get things done faster than by going through them. I won’t go into the reasons why he was right in this post for a variety of reasons, but he very much was.

People are complex. I often catch myself saying that people are messy, but that’s putting a negative spin on the outlook and I try not to do that. Human beings are unpredictable, because we’re all unique. As individuals our actions and beliefs are shaped by innumerable experiences we have had throughout our lives, up until the very moment we are in at any given time. One person might be having a bad day because they spilled their morning cup of coffee, while another person might be having a great day because they thought about someone who did something nice for them twenty years ago. We’re a beautiful and chaotic mix that has been thrown into a blender and turned on to puree to make us what we are today.

No process in the world is ever going to account for that.

That does not, however, mean we shouldn’t try to optimize our processes. Quite the opposite! Part of the spirit of continual improvement is that we should constantly be looking at the ways we work and exploring ways to make them better! Lean Six Sigma is an amazing, data-driven tool that can help you do that. In fact, I would go so far as to say that it’s entirely possible to turn the outcome of an Agile Retrospective into a Lean Six Sigma DMAIC project.

Just don’t forget the people along the way.

Daily Writing Prompt 12.23.2025

Daily writing prompt
Share what you know about the year you were born.

The one thing I know for sure about the year I was born is that my birthday, November 7th, 1972, was the day that Richard Nixon was elected for his second term as President of the United States of America in an absolute landslide. The only President who has done better in modern times was Ronald Reagan in 1984 (which happened the day before my birthday).

I really hate having my birthday so close to election day, especially in the last few election cycles. Really puts a damper on the whole thing when the president-elect in that year turns out to be a total douchebag.

FOMO?

A man sits at a desk in front of a computer, resting his chin on his hand while contemplating whether to reactivate his Facebook and Instagram accounts.
Image credit: AI-generated image created by the author using a personal reference photo.

I’ve been thinking a lot lately about starting up a new Facebook account.

I deactivated my Facebook and Instagram accounts over two years ago. I did so for several reasons, most of them revolving around my mental health (i.e. if I wanted to stay sane I didn’t need to see the shit I was seeing on Facebook, particularly things involving my family). Many of those reasons are still valid today, and for the most part I can honestly say that I don’t feel like my life is lacking because I’m not using Meta products (I also deleted my Instagram and WhatsApp accounts. On top of the stress Facebook was causing I have serious issues with the business practices at Meta and have a hard time reconciling my use of their products when I truly believe they are making the world an uglier place).

However…

The number of times I’ve talked with people over the last few years and realized half way through the conversation that they were talking about major life events as if I had known about them because they were posted on Facebook is not insignificant. Divorces. Deaths. Births. You name it. Facebook has become so pervasive that everyone just assumes you are connected with them on it and that you know all the minute details of their life. Honestly, a lot of those details are things I don’t need or even want to know, but it’s very disconcerting to feel like people are living their lives assuming you know all about them when you don’t. The opposite is true. In some cases, I feel like I’ve stopped existing. Like people are genuinely surprised when they see or hear from me, as if the fact that I no longer show up in their feeds is the equivalent of having moved on to some other plane of existence.

Not being on Facebook and Instagram has also had the odd effect of having to jump through hoops to find out what’s going locally. Many small businesses in the area rely entirely on Facebook for their online presence, and if you don’t have an account you can’t see any of it. Want to see a menu at a local restaurant? Want to see what your favorite local band is doing? Want to get an updated on the latest Hurricane from Denis Phillips? You need a Facebook or Instagram account.

The thing that has impacted me the most, though, is that I feel I’ve become largely disconnected from the local theater scene. I’m incredibly grateful for the folks who have kept in touch with me and reach out to me about my availability to perform in upcoming productions (namely the artistic directors for LAB Theater and Jobsite), but I hardly ever hear about upcoming auditions or see what my peers are performing in locally. Much of this is the a direct result of local arts coverage in the media basically being wiped out over the last few years, but it also goes back to what I was saying about personal information – people just assume that if you know because you’re on Facebook, or that if you wanted to know you would be.

I’ve also basically lost the ability to promote my work among my social circles. I mean, I post about what I’m doing over on my Bluesky account, but I think like 3 local people are connected to me there. Same goes with the local theater Subreddit (amusingly, the person who set up that subreddit is also one of my few local Bluesky buddies). The counter argument here, though, is that most of the people I would re-connect with on Facebook are theater people already. If you don’t know, theater people are notoriously bad at actually seeing shows they aren’t involved in. I’m not entirely sure why, but I think it really boils down to that whole “you get tired of eating at the restaurant you work in” thing. When you have a break from being in a show the last thing you want to do is go to see one.

This is all a very long way of saying I have no idea what I’m going to do. The more I think about it, the more I’m convinced that staying the course is the right choice. The benefits of being on those platforms are far outweighed by the negatives, and the last thing I need is yet another reason to stay tied to my devices. It’s not a completely painless choice, but I think it’s the right one for me.

This leads me to a question, though – For those of you who actually read my blog, would you be interested in updates about my upcoming shows? Should I focus on promoting myself here? I’d really be curious to know.

“This is my life now”

I know I’ve been talking a lot recently here on ye olde blogge about my continued path toward recovery from my surgery last year. Part of that is because I’m frankly happy about the fact that I’m starting to feel like my old self again, but a bigger part of it is because I’m struggling with the notion that for a very long time it seemed like feeling awful was just going to be my life now. That if I ever got to a point of “normality” again it would be due to the fact that I had just learned to live with the changes I had gone through.

While that is the case to an extent it is not nearly as bad as I thought it would be.

I also am struggling with the fact that there were people in my orbit who were making me feel like I should just get over it. That I was wallowing in self-pity.

I’m going to pause and be very clear now in stating right here that my wife is not who I am talking about.

In October of last year, a little over a month before I got back from the hospital, I went to a social outing with some friends. I really wanted to go. I needed to be around people after two months of being trapped in a hospital and another month of recovering at home. I was still carrying around some of the water weight I had gained while I was in the hospital, and I had discovered a whole new world of pain and discomfort where basically anything I ate caused me massive amounts of distress. I was weak, and I was tired all the time, and I was pretty miserable. But, as I said, I wanted to be there. I wanted to be around friendly faces and thank some of the people who had supported me throughout my ordeal.

Apparently I didn’t do a good enough job of putting on a happy face and several people commented to my wife that I looked terrible and suggested that maybe she should take me home. I guess I was putting a damper on the good time or something. One associate of ours even went so far as to tell my wife that I had said “this is my life now” when she expressed concern for me and opined that I was wallowing in self-pity.

I was trying to be funny. Guess I failed.

In any case, this is one of the things I’ve been carrying around that I’ve decided to set down. My recovery has taken as long as it needed to take. I’m getting better. I’m feeling good.

But I’m not apologizing for the fact that for a good while there I wasn’t, and I appreciate the people in my life who didn’t make me feel like a burden for not being a ray of sunshine after having a good portion of my guts yanked out of my body.

All caught up

An empty to-do list

I keep all of my recurring chores and tasks in my reminders on my iPhone. I have been paying catch up on these chores since I got back from the hospital last August, but last week I finally got caught up.

I have also exercised regularly over the last two weeks. Something else I have not been able to do since going into the hospital.

Baby steps. I continue to heal.

What’s the oldest thing you’re wearing today?

Daily writing prompt
What’s the oldest things you’re wearing today?

That would have to be the Aloha Shirt I’m currently wearing. I don’t know how old it is, but it was a hand me down gift from my Mother. Now the oldest piece of clothing I own just so happens to be an Aloha shirt as well. My Mother actually made it for my Father when they were living in Hawaii back in the 60’s, and now it belongs to me. I don’t have (or want) a lot of stuff that belonged to my Dad, but that shirt is one of my prized possessions.

What is your favorite restaurant?

The first answer that comes to mind is the now-closed GLC Café in the Atlanta Peachtree Center food court. They had the best felafel wrap I have ever had and I would eat there several times whenever I was in town for Dragon Con. Unfortunately it closed during the Pandemic and to say that fact bums me out would be a serious understatement.

What are 5 everyday things that bring you happiness?

  1. Quiet times.
  2. Cheese.
  3. Reconciling my bank accounts every morning.
  4. Feeding squirrels.
  5. Sleep.

Putting it all out there

Sometimes I wonder about the net benefit of keeping this blog alive. There is a lot of history here, and for the most part it is a pretty accurate representation of the major events of my life over the last 25 years.

But do I really want all of that out there for the world to see?

This came to mind recently when someone we know casually googled my name, found my blog, and decided to use what they learned through that discovery to initiate an unwelcome and unexpected conversation with my wife over some of the events of our lives together.

I want to be clear in stating that I do not believe this was done with any kind of malicious intent, but it was an incredibly bad judgement call and just not good form. I’m fully aware that anyone can search for me, and that there are probably a decent number of people who know me personally who have, but I’ve always thought it was kind of an unwritten rule of the internet that you didn’t actually talk about that kind of thing. Especially when the subjects involved are clearly very personal.

But here we are.

While I’ve done my best over the years to make sure the content here won’t get me fired or embarrass anyone (other than me), who knows how things I wrote back in the early 00’s could come back to bite me in the ass now? Who knows how many times I wrote things that I would regret having people read who know me now and didn’t know me then?

I mean, the chances of really bad poetry happening are pretty high.

I’m not going to do anything about this immediately. Just thoughts going through my head.

I recently wrapped up my first acting gig since 2022 with a performance in Trust Me at LAB Theater Project. To say that it was a satisfying return to the stage would be an understatement. Honestly? I thought there was a very real possibility that I may not have been able to act again. The fact is that I’m still very much recovering from my surgery last June. Don’t get me wrong – I have come a very, very long way and am in a notably better place than I was when I got home in August, but I still feel like I have a long way to go. My energy levels are still pretty low most days, and I haven’t been able to get the motivation back to start exercising again. I managed to make it through the rehearsal and performance process, but it was pretty rough.

Admittedly the solution to this is to get back to exercising to build up my strength and endurance, but one has to have energy to spend to do so and I’ve been very low on that front. I generally average 8 hours or more of decent sleep every night and I still feel like I need to take a nap every day just to get by. And if I’m being honest, just doing the show and having a slight uptick in physical activity from it made me feel better, so I really just need to get off my ass and do it.

In other news, and in no particular order…

  • I’ve been playing Star Trek: Fleet Command and have been absolutely loving it. I started last year not too long before I went into the hospital, but in the last few months I’ve really gotten into the groove of playing. What I like best about it is that, for the most part, it’s pretty passive. I send my little spaceships out, we do a few tasks, maybe mine for some supplies, and occasionally have some light PVP. I’m taking it very slowly as I progress through the game as I understand that the PVP aspect gets considerably more prevalent at higher levels and I’m just enjoying doing my own thing unbothered for now. It’s nice to have something I can kind of idly poke at throughout the day or while we’re watching TV together at night but that I can quickly put down when I need to. The “canon” of the game is kind of a riot, too. Basically, take everything from every show that has been created in the Star Trek universe, drop it in a blender, and you’ve got Fleet Command. I’ve got multiple versions of the same characters in my officers pool, have gone on missions set in both the Kelvin and Prime timelines, and am working on getting some of the crew from Lower Decks. I think the only show I haven’t seen represented (yet) is Prodigy. Hell, they even have content from Galaxy Quest in the game. In a way it kind of reminds me of EVE Online, but with fewer spreadsheets.
  • We celebrated our 12th wedding anniversary back in March, and that fact is kinda wild to me. We’ve been through a lot in the time we have spent together. Much of it good, some of it very, very bad. But in the end we’ve got each other and that makes all the difference. I don’t know if I believe that there is such a thing as a “perfect” relationship, and goodness knows we have our challenges, but I honestly cannot conceive if living the rest of my life with anyone else at my side.
  • We’ve been having some work done around the house, the big project being a new exterior paint job and replacing our front door (which I had to damage to get open after it was severely warped during the hurricanes last year). The house is looking great, and we’ve got a few more quotes coming in to not only enhance the visual appeal of the home but to make it safer in future hurricane scenarios (namely looking to have rolling shutters installed, but also getting a quote to put a drainage system in our back yard to prevent flooding there). We also had to have our fence repaired due to some storm-related damage, but really we were fortunate not to have suffered any more losses. Some of our neighbors were not so fortunate.
  • Lots of “exciting” stuff going on at work, which (if you work in the Business Transformation/Agile space) I’m sure you recognize as “holy crap the world is on fire” mode. Nothing bad at all, just lots of change happening and my team and I are working with the organization to try and make sure we’re still providing the value needed as we evolve.

    My God, that sounds so very corporate speak.

    I’ve been learning more about PowerBI and Product Management since I’ve been back to help, and if I’m being honest I’ve had a blast doing it. I’m using Prompt Engineering to help enhance my data transformations, and a lot of that has resulted in learning more about Python. My big frustration is that I’m no longer a developer at my company and I don’t have the access rights I did back when I worked in IT so a lot of my code ends up getting blocked by our security software. Frustrating, but I totally understand why. There’s a possibility I may end up having a virtual desktop created so I can play in our sandbox at work and go through the “proper” code review scenarios, but for now I’m still doing my own thing as much as I can.

I could probably go on but this is getting lengthy and I’m kind of just rambling for now. [insert promise to write here more often that will go unfulfilled]

How It’s Going

Recovery has been more challenging than I expected. While I’ve made progress, there’s still a long road ahead. My strength and endurance aren’t what they used to be, and dealing with the aftermath of losing my gallbladder, a portion of my pancreas, and adjusting to new eating habits has been tough. Even the smell of certain foods can make me nauseous—a strange reminder of my time in the hospital.

But things are improving. I’ve started walking more and working with physical therapists, slowly rebuilding my muscles. Though I still struggle with low energy, the progress is undeniable, and I can see it every day. I’m also addressing lingering back issues with massage therapy after spending two months in uncomfortable hospital beds.

Mentally, the battle has been just as intense. Initially, I struggled with frustration, especially during nights in the hospital when I was overwhelmed by misery. There were times I wanted to leave against medical advice, but I pushed through. Now that I’m home, I’ve left that phase behind. Although there are still hard days, they’re rare. For the most part, I’m just grateful to be alive and optimistic about the future.

Despite this optimism, I had initially hoped that once discharged, I’d snap back to my old self. That hasn’t been the case, but I’m learning to accept that it’s a process. What excites me most is that Lisa and I are now making long-term plans without fear of cancellation, and I’m even hoping to get back on stage in the first half of next year.

I’m not where I want to be yet, but I’m getting closer every day.