This may sound a bit strange to those of you who know me, but there are times when (despite the fact that I am a total whore of the technology age) I wistfully ponder what it might have been like to live in an age that wasn’t quite so digitized.

One of the changes that I’ve noticed about myself, as I’ve gotten older, is my appreciation for silence. I never used to be this way. I can remember times when I always had some kind of noise in the background – usually music. I’d come home from work, and the first thing that I would do is turn on the stereo and throw in a CD. I’d listen to music in the car, while I was studying, while I was working…constantly. The only time I didn’t have music going was when I was sleeping (that, at the very least, has not changed – I still have a hard time getting to sleep unless it’s very dark and all the noises in the world are canceled out by some kind of white noise. Preferably a fan). Now? To be honest, most of the time if I listen to music at my desk it starts to kind of freak me out a bit. The sound becomes overwhelming, and it almost starts to feel like it is boxing me in. As if the noise had a physical shape and was wrapped around my head like a blanket. Loud noises, in general, have started to really disturb me. I suppose if I think about it, it’s always been the case. Raised voices inside of a small place like a home has been a pet peeve of mine for a long time, but it never bothered me to the point where it would set my nerves on edge. One of the reasons I spend so much time downstairs at The Castle (on the rare occasions that I ever actually go anymore), is because it isn’t so overwhelmingly loud down there that I can’t hear a person who is yelling in my ear.

Yes, yes…If it’s too loud, you’re too old. I know the saying.

I suppose I’m too old.

As much as enjoyed the entirety of our week on the boat and in St. Augustine, my favorite part hands down was the night that Krystalle and I sat together in St. Augustine and just quietly read. Followed closely by sitting on the porch swing and just watching people walk by.

It was quiet. Blissful silence.

I used to be bothered by too much silence. It used to make me uncomfortable. The constant cacophony that surrounded me prevented that silence from descending on me. Now? The complete opposite it true. I actually look forward to stillness. I have long periods where I don’t talk much, and I try to let my mind be still.

This is why I wonder what it was like in a time when it was…quieter. When we didn’t have iPods and cellphones and computers. When people weren’t constantly trying to drown out silence. When you could walk outside at any given time and just listen to nature.

I guess I’m just not “extreme” enough for the modern era, and that perhaps in many ways I’m more old-fashioned than I care to admit to. I have this rose-colored view of the past, and in it I see simpler times. I see people being more polite. I see more people taking pride in being educated and their work.

I…I don’t know what I see, really. I’m kind of all over the place here.

As recently as five years ago, I’d have told you that I’d have given anything to live someplace like New York City. Now? Who knows? Maybe I’d adapt to the noise in time, but my gut reaction says I’d completely freak.

God…reading this make me wonder if I haven’t developed some sort of Post-Traumatic Stress Syndrome noise anxiety disorder. Yeah….that’s it.

Can’t sleep…clowns will eat me.

Rambly post done now.

And lo…

…another weekend has passed.

All things considered, it was a pretty good one. Friday night was the surprise bachelor party for donwaughesq. There was a limo. There were strippers. There was drinking. There were really foul gaseous expulsions. There were kilts, and trauma from discovering that said kilts were being worn “traditionally.” There was Indian food. There were no explosions, nor were there any cops involved. So it was a smashing success.

Saturday was the big day. Made some food, and took our caravan to the ceremony. Great eats, lots of laughs, and an absolutely lovely sunset ceremony. Missed my workout, though.

Sunday got off to a late start due to the damn time change, but the game went off without a hitch. Alex had to miss again due to not getting his science fair project done, which kinda sucked but school is more important – even if it does cut into this newfound weekly “family” time we’ve discovered.

Yeah, all told a great weekend considering that at 4PM Friday it looked like it might end up sucking the big cock.

Have finished reading all the new plays in the upcoming Jobsite season, and I have to say that so far I am grooving on This Is How It Goes a LOT. Great read, and with Ami directing it I expect wonderful things. Definitely going to be one to catch. In fact, with the notable exception of The Serpent (which is going to be one of those “needs to be seen and not read” pieces) I really enjoyed reading all the shows in the next season. I think it’s going to be a good one.

I have to go grocery shopping. Don’t wanna.

I have to do laundry. Don’t wanna do that, either.

I have to work out. Want to do that.

Food wise, it was NOT the best of weekends. Feeling a bit on the bloated side today, and I think I’m going to have to be really careful the rest of the week if I want to see any progress. And trust me, I want to see some progress.

What are YOU doing tonight?

Thinking about going to The Castle? Think again! Tonight is the Gasparilla Night Parade in Ybor City! It’s going to be INSANE down there. Parking alone is going to cost you $20, and you’re going to have to deal with thousands of drunken idiots with wandering hands (ladies, if you’ve been you know what I’m talking about). Why on Earth would you want to do that?

How about some live theater instead?

For LESS than the cost of parking alone, you can get a ticket to see the Jobsite Theater’s Phyro-Giants! The Tampa Tribune says that “Phyro-Giants! has something new to say about relationships,” while the St. Petersburg Times calls it “Lively, crisp and entertaining.” What’s more, netgoth, etcet, aishlynn and I are going to be there. Great theater AND great company! You can’t miss!!

Tonight is the last performance of this show, so this is your last chance. Get out and support live theater!

On a completely unrelated note…. this is a damned tempting offer.

So I had a great time last night. Went out to Karaoke and finally met junwin (who, it turns out, I actually gave the code to start her LJ three years ago. It’s been so long I had forgotten!). It was an absolute delight to finally get a chance to meet face to face, even if it was hard to hear over the music. I also got to meet queenbarbee‘s other half, who was quite cool (and can throw some MAD gang signs). Several completely new faces to me as well, and a startling revelation – After years and years of promoting herself as a god-awful Karaoke singer, something happened to good_eeevening. She got good. Like, really good. Sure, maybe it’s only on the songs she’s done a billion times…but damn. And my, but does she turn her songs into a production for the rest of the bar.

I, on the other hand, was frustrated yet again by the selection. I guess my tastes are just far too eclectic (and I’m too over-anxious about sounding bad by picking a song I don’t know backwards and forwards). I choose “Thunder Rolls” by Garth Brooks first, but their CD had been stolen. I settled on the theme from “Rawhide,” but when I got up to do it the song started halfway through so I was up there for all of 30 seconds (and sounded like ass, because it wasn’t in the style of the Blues Brothers). Was going to do the Garth Brooks cover of “Shameless,” but I left before I was called again.

I just need to start carrying my own CD’s with me to these things.

Had some Outback Steakhouse goodness for an early Valentine’s Day dinner last night. Good, but hoooo the points. Yes, I actually calculated them. Needless to say, there are no FLEX points left for me this week.

And on that note, I’m gonna go for a walk. Later, folks.

Interesting.

So I have this search feature linked off of my main site. It basically indexes the public record of my blog. One of the reasons why I’ve kept the service I have (and don’t have the link pointing to something like the new google blog search) is because I get a report, every week, showing me what has been searched for on my blog. What is fascinating about that is the fact that, more often than not, I find that people are looking for themselves. People who, for one reason or another, no longer actively communicate with me.

Makes me kinda sad. In most cases it would be kinda nice to hear from them.

Ah well.

Today…

Has been a pretty good day.

Traffic court went REALLY well. Because I had an attorney my case was heard first (I can only assume that, out of sympathy for the fact that attorneys charge by the hour, the courts give you priority), and I was in front of the judge for all of 5 minutes. He asked if we wanted to change my plea, which we did. We pled “No Contest” and asked for Advanced Drivers Instruction. The judge turned to the trooper and asked if that was alright with him, and it was. He then asked to see my insurance card (my other ticket was for no proof of insurance). That being in order, he signed the paperwork and sent me on my way.

Yay!

Now I just have to take a 12 hour driving class.

Boo.

Got to work by about 10, shortly before my co-worker left for the day because of back pain. Boss offered to take me to lunch, and I asked if we could go to Applebee’s so that I could get a Weight Watchers friendly meal. Got the Onion Soup (which still rocks), the Mequite Chicken Salad (good, but a bit dry due to the amount of dressing you get), and the Raspberry Cheesecake (which was incredible). All told, 13 Weight Watchers points for lunch. Considering that I only had a Banana for breakfast, this was quite acceptable. I DID have a few samples at Costco afterwards (the boss wanted to stop by), but I counted a full point for every sample I had. Still have 9 points for the day, and I plan on going for a walk when I get home to get another 3.

Took and posted my “honesty” pictures last night. Sobering, that. I think I was most disturbed by the back pictures. K. insists that the folds I see are loose skin that losing weight isn’t going to help, but to me it just looked like huge rolls of fat. I’m proud of how good I’ve been this week, and I love how there seems to be a big circle of us that are really refocusing and getting inspiration from each other, but it’s still depressing to see that.

I’ve had this…I dunno…dream I guess…Of one day having nudes or semi-nudes taken of me that wouldn’t be…well, gross. Not for any pornographic reasons. Just because I think artful nudes are really cool, and I’d love to be a subject of one, but I’ve never had the kind of body that could pull it off in an aesthetically pleasing manner. Seeing those last night made me realize how far away I am at the moment from having that become a reality.

And before it does, I’m going to have to have surgery to remove the excess skin.

So this is my current goal – To get to 225 pounds. When I do, I’m getting the surgery. I don’t care what I have to do to pay for it, but I’m doing it. When I do, I’ll undoubtedly lose more weight as there is a LOT of excess skin on my body. Once I’ve healed I’ll find out where my weight is and go from there.

But I have to get there first.

419.2/288.6/225

I can do this.

Adventures in Home Finances!

So I spent a good deal of time today arranging a refinance of my home. I’m rolling my first and second mortgage into one loan, and also putting the financing that I did for the windows and the air conditioner into it. Unfortunately, I’m not saving a hell of a lot of money. About $150 a month. Why?

Well, my credit seems to have taken a crapper recently. One of the reasons? The second mortgage and the windows were both financed through American General Finance, which I have come to find out is bad for your credit rating.

Yeah, that’s right. Going through a finance company and not a bank hurts your credit.

I’ve also got far too many credit cards open right now. I guess 3 is the magic number you’re supposed to shoot for there?

One of the nice things about the company I’m refinancing through, though, is that they refinance again for free if you go through them. SO, the plan is to spend the majority of this year making sure that all of my payments are made on time, and eliminating some of the credit cards from my wallet. This will allow me to get out of the cruddy “you have bad credit” finance and into a more reasonable interest rate program. Maybe even one of those “interest only” loans that will allow me to pay directly on to my principal in amounts that suit my financial situation from month to month.

Ugh. You know, as easy as this has been (and it’s been VERY easy), doing this kind of thing still gives me a headache.

Weekend accomplishments

  • Removed the hot tub and deck from the back porch (with the help of xanyboi and etcet)
  • Edged the driveway and yard
  • Fixed a broken sprinkler head
  • Fertilized the yard
  • Finally put borders around the last three flower beds in the yard
  • Bought a pressure washer
  • Replaced a broken floor tile

Still to do this week

  • Pressure wash the back porch
  • Paint the floor of the back porch
  • Get some of the mondo dirt pile into the garbage can on Tuesday and Friday
  • Get the final damned piece of molding installed in the hallway

Yep. It’s been a productive weekend.

Dear Alex

As I’ve stated in the past, part of the reason why I keep this journal is so that you’ll have the ability to, some day, take a look back at what I’ve written and figure your old man out. Think of it as a kind of form of time travel, if you would. You can see yourself and our life through my eyes at the time. Or maybe you can just read this and confirm how much of a nutjob I am. Regardless, I full expect that someday you will have full access to this journal and will eventually stumble across this entry.

You’re ten years old today