What is your favorite quote and why?

I got an email a few days ago from the folks over at WordPress.com inviting me to take part in something they are calling “Bloganuary,” which is a daily writing prompt gimmick with a horrible name that they are currently using to promote the platform. My Mother and Uncle are just winding up a years’ worth of weekly story prompts that I purchased for them from Storyworth.com, though, and getting those little weekly emails with their stories was really enjoyable for me so I figured I’d go ahead and join the “challenge” to see what kind of prompts I would get (amusingly, the notice came about ¾ of the way through the month so I’ve missed most of the prompts at this point, but maybe they’ll keep them going).

I got my first prompt on Saturday. “What is your favorite quote and why?”

Considering the day we had on Saturday, it was a bit on the nose in terms or appropriateness, but I suppose the universe really wanted me to focus on a message. I honestly cannot say that this is my favorite quote, but on the day I got this prompt it was the only one I could think of.

You cannot have it all. You can only have a sliver of it all. So pick your sliver well, my friend. – Hugh McLeod, gapingvoid.com

My wife Lisa introduced me to this quote not too long after we started seeing each other back in 2012. At that time, I didn’t know how or why it was so important to her. I just thought it was a really neat inspirational post that I could relate to as well. I think I’ve only just fully realized why it resonated so strongly with her, and why that last line in particularly was so poignant that she had it inscribed on an iPad she purchased that year.

Pick your sliver well, my friend.

I’ve known for many, many years that you cannot have everything you wanted in life and that for the overwhelming majority of us a life “well lived” is one in which you realize that fact and focus your efforts accordingly. What is becoming more and more clear to me as I continue learning the lessons that life often feels the need to beat into my head is that this is not an invitation to throw all caution to the wind and seize the day to follow whatever whim is bound to make you happy in the moment.

Pick your sliver well, my friend.

Pick your sliver well.

The time we have on this planet is minimal. Infinitesimal in the grand scheme of the universe, especially if you’re like me and you do not hold the belief that you get some kind of “do over” if you muck it all up this time around. This is it. From the day you are born until the day you die, everything you do in between that time is all you get. When it’s over, it’s over.

And it could be over in the blink of an eye.

Pick your sliver well, but more importantly recognize that there are always trade offs when you do so. The choices you make today could cost you far more than they are worth in the long-term if you do not pick them wisely, especially if those choices harm those around you.

Pick. Your. Sliver. Well.

I recognize now, more than ever, that this part of the quote isn’t intended to be inspirational. It’s a warning.

A Con of Dragons

After I returned home from DragonCon in 2019 I decided that I needed to re-evaluate my relationship with the convention and whether I would ever go back. I had cut the trip short due to an impending hurricane and a general sense of misery and unease being there.

This was about a month before I quit drinking, when everything I did from a leisure standpoint basically revolved around alcohol. I started drinking when I got on the plane for Atlanta, and really did not stop (except for the morning hours and the times I was on duty…mostly). I was already at a point when even leaving our house was annoying because it just got in the way of being able to drink as much as I wanted, and when you factor in the cost of travel AND the expense of drinking hotel priced booze? Well, it just was not worth it.

This was, honestly, how many of my vacations looked before I stopped drinking. Just an excuse to drink even more than I did at home. I had a similar experience at Gen Con earlier that year. Skipped out on the final event in the tournament that Alexander and I pretty much went there for so we could stay at the AirBNB and drink.

The fact of the matter is, though, that when I first went to DragonCon I hardly drank at all. I could not afford it, for one thing, but more importantly drinking was not a big deal in my life. What thrilled me was the convention itself, and the things I loved doing there had nothing to do with getting my drink on.

I had already decided to take 2020 off so I could really sort out my feelings on the subject, but then the pandemic happened and I had another level of emotion to sort out. One of the reasons I loved going to conventions is because they made me feel connected to people who shared the same passions I did, or who were equally as passionate about things I was not but could at least relate to. Being cut off from that while also being cut off from pretty much the rest of the world made me miss attending the show even more than I would have had the pandemic not happened, so I went ahead and made a reservation for the 2021 show and committed to going.

Now it is just a few short months until DragonCon returns, and I am following through with what I told myself I was going to do and sorting out my relationship with DragonCon. A relationship that will not, for the first time in a very long time, revolve around (or even include) drinking. Why do I want to be there? What do I want to do?

Seems like the perfect occasion for a bulleted list…

  • I want to see and spend time with the friends I have made, and only see, during the convention.
  • I want to dance. Preferably while looking spooky.
  • I want to see and take pictures of cool cosplayers.
  • I want to have dinner at the restaurant owned by Kandi Burruss (Old Lady Gang Southern Eatery)
  • I want to play some games. This could possibly include running the 5th Edition D&D module “The Lost Tomb of the Bitchin’ Chimera”
  • I want to stare forlornly at the vacant spot where the GLC café used to be and dream of the falafel I will not be having. Ok, I do not WANT to do this, but I will.
  • I want to buy a new kilt that fits properly, get my kilt belt sized down, and purchase some new t-shirts.
  • I want to express my gratitude to as many artists whose work I have enjoyed in my life as I can fit in my schedule.
  • I want to sit in a room full of loud, exhausted volunteers eating food made from questionable ingredients while trying to hear whether I have won a raffle prize I will never be able to use.
  • I want to resist the urge to break my streak of walking four miles a day.
  • I want to play and possibly purchase at least one new game.
  • I want a cool new coffee mug.
  • I want to go to karaoke.
  • I want to discover new and interesting beverages to consume that are not alcoholic. Craft Sodas!

I could probably think of more, but if I were to accomplish everything on that list it would be a hell of a holiday weekend. Which is exactly what it used to be like back before having a drink in my hand the whole time was not my priority.

See you in Atlanta, Geeks.

Estimates are dead. Long live estimates.

The act of estimating work brings no value to your customers.

This is not to say that there is no value in estimating work. There certainly can be. But in terms of benefiting the customer the amount of time and effort spent in coming up with estimates is worthless. A customer does not care whether you hit your deadlines, unless missing a deadline adversely impacts them. Conversely, a customer does not care whether you made a deadline or finished a project early, and for the same reasons. This is also not to say that there is no value in delivering a project within a certain time frame. There can be tremendous value in that, from being the first to market on a new offering or just putting something into production that begins generating revenue or cost savings.

But the act of estimating in and of itself, and the act of basing project milestones on those estimations, has little to no value. Human beings are notoriously bad at estimating, and no matter how much effort is put into attempting to define processes that can help in that effort the fact remains that the larger and more complex the work is the less accurate your estimates about how long it will take to complete will be, so time spent trying to come up with estimates is wasteful.

So why do we estimate at all? Why do I, as an Agile Coach, teach teams about things like story points or relative sizing? What that’s the point?

Being able to predict when you’ll deliver value to your customers.

That’s it. That’s the only reason to estimate work. The methods of estimation that I teach are tools that a team can use to predict what value they will generate during their next iteration, and the more mature a team is the less time they will spend coming up with those estimates. The goal is to eliminate the need to use estimating tools entirely. A high performing, mature team should be able to accurately plan the value they will generate in the next iteration (sprint) without needing to put a numeric value on that work.

There is a lot that must happen for that goal to be met. A key component of that is for external forces (i.e. managers, supervisors, executives) to trust that the team wants to, and will be, as productive as possible without constant scrutiny. That’s a big ask, but without it the whole house of cards collapses.

So when I see leadership teams fret about an organization needing to get better at setting realistic timelines for project completion I worry, because when I see that I see delivery teams spending extra time trying to come up with “accurate” deadlines that are, ultimately, going to be wrong. What’s more, that the time spent coming up with those bad estimates could have been spent doing things that generate value for the customers. The only true value generated by asking a team to estimate is that it gives someone removed from the work the ability to absolve themselves from blame when the work is not completed on time (which is, of course, one of the many factors that lead to teams inflating their estimates).

This is always the point when someone looks at me and asks if I’m advocating some sort of system in which there are no deadlines or expectations and teams just churn out whatever they want in their own time without any kind of external influence.

No, of course not.

What I’m advocating is that dates and deadlines should be focused around value.

I’m going to turn to Star Trek to explain my point because that is, as the saying goes, how I roll.

In the original Star Trek series, Chief Engineer Montgomery “Scotty” Scott is often referred to as being a “miracle worker” because he always seems to provide his Captain, James T. Kirk, with what is needed to save the day despite Captain Kirk giving him unrealistic deadlines. In a typical exchange, Captain Kirk will explain to Scotty what the problem is and ask how long it will take to solve it. Scotty will quickly give him an answer (say, for example, “three hours”) and Kirk will respond that he has 10 minutes. Somehow, Scotty always manages to deliver in those 10 minutes. Scotty eventually revealed that he always inflated his estimates to Captain Kirk because “Starfleet captains are like children. They want everything right now and they want it their way. But the secret is to give them only what they need, not what they want.”

I realize that I run the risk of offending by saying that this applies to business leaders as well as starship captains but, frankly, it does. Estimates and project deadlines are ways that we try to force a scenario in which we get everything we want, not what we need. Without that focus we cannot even begin to have the conversation around delivering with a Minimum Viable Product (MVP) mindset.

So how could this work in the real world?

By setting deadlines tied to customer/business value and cost of delay, we flip the conversation from “when will this be done” to “what can be done in this time frame?” This encourages everyone involved to focus on delivering instead of “moving cards to Done” to meet expectations. In a healthy and trusting environment, it also can provide opportunities for external stakeholders to remove impediments that are preventing value from being delivered in a timely fashion. If, for example, the reason that a team cannot deliver value by a set deadline is because they are still working on other projects those projects could be delayed or, even better, stopped altogether (which also requires the existing projects to be organized in an MVP factor AND for the organization as a whole to resist the trap of the sunken cost fallacy).

Some questions inevitably arise when contemplating this kind of scenario. The answer to most of them ultimately boils down to “you have to trust your teams” but I will address a few in particular.

Doesn’t Parkinson’s Law state that work will expand to fill the time allotted?

It does, but that is a result of the kind of behavior that I’ve talked about here. When someone knows that they are being held to a deadline, and that often the deadlines they are being held to are arbitrary and meaningless, they understandably tend to take advantage of scenarios that develop that allow them to take some breathing room. In a high trust environment if a team becomes idle and literally cannot find things to do that are valuable uses of their time they will let you know.

But we’re not doing the work! How can we possibly tell a team when it should be done by?

By focusing on the value instead of focusing on finishing a “project.” Tell the team what you need. Tell them when you need it by. Let them tell you if they can do it, and if not let them tell you what they can do in that time frame. If that’s not satisfactory, ask them what they need to meet that time frame. If you can give that to them, do it. If not, modify your expectations. Don’t change your dates, change the scope of your request. If you’re being unrealistic your teams will tell you. Listen to them. Trust them.

Does this mean I won’t ever get everything I want out of a project?

Maybe it does. That’s ok. To paraphrase yet another frequently cited business world axiom, “80% of the value comes from 20% of the effort.” If your teams can focus on delivering value often and regularly instead of meeting deadlines, you will likely find that it’s ok to not get everything you want. More importantly, you’ll find that getting everything you want can be incredibly wasteful.

What if we’re wrong?

What if you are? Will the world end? Will you go out of business completely? Chances are the answer to both those questions is “no.” If the work your teams deliver does not generate the value that you expected, focus on getting better at predicting value, not deadlines. Ask your teams to do the same. Learn from each other. Run short experiments. Take risks. Spend less time planning and more time doing.

Be, I don’t know, Agile?

So that’s done…

I’m gonna be honest here, my friends. Well, I feel like I’m always honest here but that’s besides the point. Anyway…

The last four years have been rough. Living in a country that elected that vile excuse of a human being and everything that went along with it was a challenge. If it had been realistic to do so we would have left, and trust me when I say we had a lot of discussions around it (you might be surprised to learn that there aren’t a lot of countries that are really chomping at the bit to let Americans move there). I watched the new President give his inaugural address, and I realized as I was doing so that it was the first time I’ve willingly watched the President of my country speak since the last inauguration, when I sat there in open mouthed horror as Cheetolini extolled the kind of “virtues” that had not been publicly embraced to that extent in decades.

I’m really looking forward to going back to the President not being part of the daily discussion, and not cringing every time that person speaks.

But in the spirit of unity that President Biden is calling for, here’s a few things I’m going to commit to…

  • I won’t use President Biden’s name as a weapon. We have removed our yard sign, and I won’t be wearing my Biden/Harris mask any more.
  • I won’t begrudge the people who want to say that Biden is not “their” President, but I will not hesitate to remind them that he is the President.
  • I will continue to have open dialogue with people who disagree with me on the way the Government should run, but I reserve the right to continue lambasting Nazis, white supremacists, racists, and others who were emboldened by the 45 administration.
  • I’m also going to continue making fun of anyone who still thinks Q is a reliable source.

Gotta get back to work, but I wanted to get those thoughts out.

Momentum

Perfection is the enemy of good. That’s how the saying goes, isn’t it? I’d take the time to look it up but that’s kind of antithetical to what I’m writing about today. As is typical for me by now, when the year rolled over I glanced at my neglected network of blogs and committed to do better by them in the coming year. I even created a Trello board called “editorial calendar” that has three lists of topics, and I promised myself I’d write three posts a week.

That was three weeks ago. As you can see, no blog posts as of yet.

I almost opened up my editorial calendar to see what I should have written about in this blog on Monday three weeks ago, but I decided not to. I just wanted to get some words down. Get things moving. Get some momentum.

That would certainly be a nice change after 2020.

Don’t get me wrong. In a lot of ways, if I’m being honest, 2020 was pretty good to me personally. I lost more weight. My wife and I committed to making some serious inroads into our financial future and we have done so. I kept up my walking routine and completed a good number of virtual distance challenges. I’ve remained alcohol-free. I listened to a lot of books and podcasts. My team and I have received many accolades and are held up as being highly influential employees in the organization. I’ve continued to go to therapy every two weeks, and I’ve really learned a lot about myself as a result.

But, of course, 2020 was 2020. Pandemic. 45. Dogs and cats living together. Mass hysteria. We’re coming up on a year since the lockdowns began, and all the related factors are of course impacting all of us, and I’m not immune to that. The virus has mutated and that version is making the rounds, so it looks like another extended period of extreme lockdown.

I’m also writing this 10 days before the second anniversary of Christopher’s death, and almost a week after what should have been his 20th birthday. We continue to do our best to heal, to be there for each other, to figure out what life is supposed to even look like now in what we refer to as the “after.” It’s been hard. It will continue to be hard. Most of the people around us probably don’t even think about his suicide when they think about us, and that’s completely normal, but it’s still very much a part of who we are now. Part of who we will always be.

I don’t mean to be maudlin here, and I don’t feel like what I wrote above doesn’t even qualify for that if I’m being honest. It’s not a sad fact. It’s just a fact. It is, as my step-son says, what it is.

So there is a post. I hope there are more to follow. That I keep up the momentum. At this point I have to agree with my Mother, who loves to say that as long as she keeps moving she keeps living. She’s living proof that is true, so all I can do is hope to emulate her.

Facts and Figures

I was inspired to write today after seeing the post below on the Facebook timeline of a relative of mine. I had to go specifically searching out said post because the relative put me on mute a few years ago after vague posting about me being too negative and hateful to follow any more, but because I actually love this person I do check in every once in a while. I would have posted as a comment there, but I have also been accused of only saying anything to them when they post something political. So it goes. Besides, I just spent a lot of time researching my response and I figured why not post it here where people beyond the cesspool of Facebook might find it.

So here is the content of the original copy/paste post…

I am making this post so it will show back up as a future memory on my timeline: Today is three days after the 2020 election. Gasoline is currently $1.80-2.10 per gallon. Interest rates are 2.65% for a 30 year mortgage. The stock market closed at 27,848, even though we have been fighting COVID for 9 months. Our GDP growth for the 3rd Qtr was 33%. We had the best economy ever until COVID and it is recovering well. We have not had any new wars or conflicts in the last 4 years. North Korea has been under control and has not been testing any missiles. Isis has not been heard from for over 3 years. The housing market is the strongest in over 20 years. Homes have appreciated at an unbelievable rate and sell within hours of going on the market, with multiple offers. I hope our new leadership can build on these things and can keep them going, but if I were a betting person I would bet that the only place we will see these results will be in this post

And here is my response…Sources are linked inline.

Based on data collected between 1993 and today, gasoline prices peaked in July of 2008 at $4.16 per gallon during the height of the economic recession. They bottomed out in January of 2009 at $1.73 per gallon during the first month of the Obama administration. The average price per gallon began to rise as the economy recovered and stayed over $3 a gallon until December of 2014, but it had been steadily dropping since June of that year. The average has fluctuated up and down between $2 and $3 a gallon ever since with a few exceptions, but the lowest it has been since the recession was in March of 2016. Prices have been trending higher since that time but dropped rapidly in 2020 $2.63 a gallon in January to $1.94 in May. This was due largely to the lack of demand because of the worldwide impact of COVID-19. As of November of 2020 the average price per gallon is $2.20.

Mortgage interest rates are historically low right now, but that is not necessarily a good thing. Those rates are based on the Federal Interest rate, which is almost zero at this point. There has been talk of that rate going negative, which in simplest terms means that the government would be paying entities to loan them money. The reason why the rate is so low is because the economic conditions in the country are tenuous at best. As of September of 2020, the unemployment rate was 7.9%, and that didn’t factor in the estimated 5 million people who are not currently looking for work due to the pandemic. This also does not factor in the nearly 2.3 million individuals in our prison system, with 56% of that population being Black or Hispanic. The housing and used car markets are indeed great right now – for people who can afford to take advantage of the fact that interest rates are terrible. Meanwhile, savings, certificate, and money market rates are hardly worth paying attention to. You haven’t even been able to buy paper savings bonds at banks since 2012, and even if you could the rate is just as bad on those as it is for any other type of traditional low-risk investments. The only way to significantly grow your money right now is to invest it in the stock market, which excludes approximately 48% of the population (and heavily favors white households with over $100k in annual income).

The GDP did grow by 33% in the third quarter of 2020. It also dropped by 31.4% in the second quarter and 5% in the first quarter. Before that, GDP has had statistically flat growth for the last 25 years, with the exception of the economic recession in 2008.

The stock market has been growing at a steady pace since the economic recession of 2008 but took a major hit in March of 2020. During the pandemic.

North Korea conducted missile tests in March of 2020, and during a parade in October unveiled what appeared to be an Intercontinental Ballistic Missile.

ISIS Claimed credit for an attack that killed 4 in Vienna on November 3rd of 2020, and has claimed credit for many attacks over the last three years.

There are several upshots to everything I’ve just written here…

  • The President of the United States, as an individual, as virtually no impact on the overall economy.
  • North Korea is still a threat to the United States. So is ISIS. But, according to the F. B.I., the biggest threat Americans currently face domestically comes in the form of antigovernmental, right-wing groups of white supremacists. These groups were emboldened due to the messages sent by the administration over the last four years, starting during his initial campaign and becoming official during his inauguration in which he took an “America First” stance. The America First party was founded in 1943 and was an isolationist, anti-Semitic, white supremacist movement.
  • Most importantly – It took me maybe an hour to fact check and write my rebuttal to this post, largely because I wanted to make sure I cited credible sources and had my figures right. I did not know many of the statistics above until I started my research. I didn’t know about recent North Korea or ISIS activity. Because I work in finance I was aware of the trends in the economy but I did not know any actual numbers. One of the amazing things about living in modern times is that we literally have the sum of all human knowledge to us available at our fingertips. Far too many of us do not use it. Read more. Research more. Find your own answers and do not let memes, headlines, and pundits dictate how you think. And whatever you do, stay the hell away from YouTube videos.

Free Training Friday (May 22nd, 2020)

It occurred to me while writing my last post that there are potentially a lot of organizations who, like ours, are looking for ways to be Leaner because of the worldwide impacts of the Coronavirus pandemic. Conferences are being canceled, budgets are being slashed, and many of the traditional methods that Agile practitioners use to earn PDU’s or SEU’s are suddenly unavailable or too expensive. I like to think I stay fairly well tied into the Agile community, and I’m a bit of a social media addict, so I tend to see a lot of great stuff come across my feeds throughout the week. I thought, perhaps, there might be some value in me saving and sharing those things out to the world.

So here you go…the first in a weekly series I am going to call Free Training Friday. Because I am original like that.

Events

AgileThought Virtual Forum – Effective Backlog Refinement for Remote Teams

Date: Thursday, May 28th

Time: 12:00 PM – 1:00 PM

Description: Backlog refinement is about adding details to the product backlog. Refinement, on the other hand, is something that the Scrum team does. Unlike the Sprint planning, the Daily Scrum and other events, the Scrum Guide does not prescribe exactly how refinement is to be completed, so the “how” is up to you.

Virtual Scrum Masters Guild – Agile Outside of IT Panel Discussion

Date: Wednesday, June 3rd

Time: 6:00 PM – 8:00 PM

Description: The Agile Manifesto was written by a group of software developers in 2001 and has been heavily rooted in Software and Information Technology from the very beginning. That trend has been shifting, and many companies outside of the software development world (or departments within larger companies that are outside of Information Technology) have embraced Agile values and principles. Join us for a moderated panel discussion on the challenges and opportunities involved in adopting Agile outside of the Information Technology domain.

Practice Does Not Make Perfect: Why Agile Transformations Fail (Gil Broza)

Date: Wednesday, May 27th

Time: 12:00 PM – 1:00 PM

Description: These days, almost every organization is showing interest in Agile. We seem to have all the ingredients for effective transformations: well-known practices, detailed processes, ever-improving tools, extensive literature, myriad certifications, and many consultants. How is it, then, that so few organizations are truly agile? Gil Broza, author of “The Agile Mindset” and “The Human Side of Agile”, thinks that one particular ingredient has been overlooked in the mad rush to adopt Agile. In this session, he leads us on an exploration of that ingredient and its place in an Agile transformation.

Podcasts/Videos

Agile Coaches Corner: Trainer Talk – Why Does Scrum Have So Many Meetings? (With Sam Falco)

Format: Audio

Duration: 4:24

Description: In this episode of Trainer Talk – the supplemental series to the Agile Coaches’ Corner podcast – Sam Falco, a Professional Scrum Trainer, addresses the complaint: “I don’t like Scrum because there are too many meetings.” At first glance, that seems like an odd thing to say because there are only four meetings, so let’s dive into this topic.

Relative Sizing by Clearly Agile’s Fred Mastropasqua

Format: Video

Duration: 9:20

Description: Fred Mastropasqua shares his insights on how to use relative sizing for your Agile and Scrum projects.

Follow Friday

Picard management tip: If you’re on red alert every day, then red alert means nothing.— Picard Tips (@PicardTips) May 21, 2020

I know it seems silly to link to a comedy account, but I get a lot of value out of this feed. This tweet resonated highly with me. I say something similar at work constantly (“If everything is a priority, you have no priorities”).

Getting Started With Agile

Before I go into my list of suggestions, I want to take a moment and briefly touch on one of the things I am most passionate about in terms of Agile.

Agile is a set of values and principles that were written by a group of software developers back in 2001. It is not a framework. It is not a process. There are frameworks and processes that people who are interested in increasing business agility can use but following any one particular “path” is not being Agile. It is doing Agile.

If you ever hear that you have to…well, I was going to create a list of things of things here, but basically if anyone tells you that you “have” to do something in order to “be” Agile that is a big red flag and you should be wary. Always go back to the manifesto. It is short and sweet and should be posted up somewhere you can reference it often. This is a great little PDF that I use. While I am talking about the manifesto, there is a version that was created specifically around Marketing teams. You can find it here. There is also something out there called Modern Agile that is a more streamlined and focused version of the original manifesto. What you will find across the board, though, is that all these various documents focus on values and principles. Not “doing stand ups.”

With all that out of the way, here are some things you can do to learn a little more about the “other stuff.”

Agile Values

  • The Age of Agile by Stephen Denning is currently at the top of my recommendation list. It is all about the pursuit of true agility, and hardly mentions any sort of frameworks or specific methodologies at all. In fact, Denning points out that most companies that are well known as being Agile companies made up their own processes and got copied. While I am talking about Denning, the article he wrote for Forbes about “fake” Agile is well worth the read as well. The book is a little slow to start but it gets better as you read.
  • Turn the Ship Around and Leadership is Language by David Marquet. I first saw Marquet speak at the Global Scrum Gathering back in 2016, where he gave a presentation based on his first book. Again, nothing in these books specifically about any sort of framework but a whole lot about what real business agility should look like.
  • Team of Teams, by General Stanley McChrystal. This is one of the first books I was exposed to once I jumped into the overall Agile community, and it is a remarkably interesting and informative read.

Scrum

  • Read the Scrum guide. No, seriously. It is free and should take you ten or fifteen minutes at most. This is the most important thing you can do in terms of learning Scrum, and anything else you consume that is related to Scrum should be compared back to the guide and scrutinized accordingly. There is a whole bunch of “stuff” out there that people think is part of Scrum that is not (user stories, for example, are not mentioned in the Scrum guide. Nor is sizing or the Fibonacci sequence).
  • If you are a visual person, this is a great video I use when introducing teams to Scrum and unless you are filling the role of Scrum Master or Product Owner it is really all you need to know to be part of a Scrum team. Keep in mind what I said in the bullet point above, though. There are things in this video that are not part of Scrum and not “required” practices.
  • Scrum: The Art of Doing Twice the Work in Half the Time is a book by one of the co-creators of Scrum and a remarkably interesting study into the framework. Sutherland gets a lot of criticism over his ego in this book, and he does very much put forward that Scrum can be applied anywhere, and you are dumb if you do not use it. I think it can be used much more broadly than people think, but I am not entirely convinced it is a solution for every problem. The book has many interesting case studies with teams using Scrum outside of software development, though, and it also talks about ways to “sell” the framework from the perspective of ROI.
  • Essential Scrum is a book by Kenneth S. Rubin that we read as an organization early on in our transformation and has a lot of good “deep” value for those who want to learn more beyond the basics that are presented in the Scrum guide. I must repeat the same caveat that I did earlier, though. This is not a bible. This is not the Scrum guide. There are processes and tools listed in this book that are not “required” parts of Scrum that subsequently can, and should, be tossed out if they are not working for a team or organization. I harp on this point because one of my constant frustrations over the years as an Agile coach is running up against individuals who insist that certain practices must be followed that are 100% not part of the Scrum guide (I also happen to believe that any team that has been using Scrum, and doing it well, will eventually evolve to a point when certain practices found in the Scrum guide are no longer necessary either. Bottom line is that if you are following the same practices that worked two years ago and literally nothing has changed I question whether or not you are actually learning or trying to get better at what you do).

Kanban

  • This book by David J. Anderson is dry as hell and boring but It is pretty much “the” book about Kanban. I really cannot say much more about it. It is included here because it is a good source, but you will never hear me say I enjoyed reading it.
  • A book I did enjoy, however, that really talks about some of the reasons why flow is important, is The Phoenix Project. This book is basically a modern version of The Goal, which was a fable about flow and the theory of constraints in the manufacturing world. The Phoenix Project translates those lessons over to the DevOps world. For a book about management principles it is not only very educational, but an entertaining read as well.

Agile at Scale

So this is kind of touchy subject, because if you think people try to put constraints around Agility on teams, wait until you run across an organization that has had success and now they want it to spread across the enterprise. This is where things tend to get very “command and control” and quick. If you were to ask me where an organization should start, I would suggest Scrum@Scale. Like Scrum, the Scrum@Scale guide is simple, short, and free. You can read it quickly and if you are familiar with Scrum the concepts are not radically different from what you already know. Another major player in the field is SAFe. I loathe SAFe. Just looking at the SAFe diagram gives me a headache. There are some good things buried in the overly complicated mess that is the framework, though, and if you are talking about scaled agile you should at least be familiar with it.

I mean look at this hot mess. Seriously.

Certifications

Certifications seem to be a necessary evil if you are looking for a job in the Agile world, but there are a whole bunch of people out there who hold certifications that are no more Agile than the ninety year old tortoise that I wished lived in my back yard. If you are looking to be as economical as possible the certifications offered through Scrum.org can be taken without having to attend an expensive class and are generally acceptable for most jobs descriptions. If you want to take a class to prepare for any of their certifications, AgileThought has some great folks on their staff. I have not taken any of their official classes, but I am confident enough in the team there to assume they would be great. The other big name in the certification world is the Scrum Alliance, but all of their certifications require expensive classroom work unless you are working with an organization that has a Certified Team Coach on staff. If you decide to go that route, I am a huge fan of the team over at Braintrust. All but one of my certification classes were taught by the team there, and I have learned a lot from (and enjoyed) every one of them.

One quick tip about certifications and classes – Most of these classes have rarely, if ever, been offered virtually prior to this year. There has always been a belief that, as stated in the manifesto, the most value for classes like this came from face-to-face interaction. Many of these companies have had to pivot quickly to try and keep their training income flowing. I mention this primarily because I feel like it is a great time to negotiate training costs. Now do not get me wrong, I suggested the companies above because I think they are solid folks and I want to see them get paid, but certifications are not cheap. I think this is a great time for them to fill some seats for folks who might have smaller budgets or be paying for classes on their own, so ask for it. The worst they can say is no, right?

Networking

Florida has a huge and highly active Agile community, and there are so many free events happening every month that those of us involved in putting them on must coordinate to make sure we are not stepping on each other. Join the Tampa Bay Agile Meetup Group and start attending some of the local meetups. Obviously right now they are all virtual, but we have more events happening now than we were when we were face-to-face. It has been a little quiet lately, but there is also a great Florida Agile community accessible through Slack. Twitter and LinkedIn are also great places to learn more about Agile, but as I write that I realize I have no easy way to share the folks I get value out of in either place. I suppose it is time for me to create some lists.

Other Resources

  • Coaching Agile Journeys is a Florida based community of Agile practitioners who put on several virtual events a month, mostly during daytime hours.
  • AgileThought has been hosting weekly free virtual events. You can keep an eye out for upcoming ones on their event page.
  • Their events are listed though the Tampa Bay Agile meetup group, but I want to specifically point out the Tampa Bay Women in Agile group. This is the local chapter of a worldwide organization that is part of the Agile Alliance, and I am a huge supporter of their cause.

In Conclusion

The more I look at this document, the more I want to add to it. Which is, at its core, directly counter to trying to deliver the Most Viable Product to my customers. Ultimately, I hope you find at least one thing in here that you can walk away with that helps you move further along your Agile journey. I am currently working on becoming an IC Agile Coaching Expert, so if you found value here and would be interested in some one-on-one professional coaching so I can practice on people who I do not work with let me know.

I would like to thank Kari Goetz and Michelle Peatee for being the inspirations behind this post. They both reached out to me at the same time, so I initially started putting it together for them. What you just read is the finished product.

AF AF

I have been Alcohol Free for just over six months.

March 22nd, 2020

Ultimately that’s the upshot of this entire post. If you don’t have any interest in reading about why I decided to do so or what my experience has been like since then feel free to move on. The anniversary passed right as this whole Cronoavirus business kicked into full gear, and I kinda got to feeling like I did when everyone was talking about how 2016 was such a dumpster fire. I mean, it was, but there was some really cool stuff that happened that year in my life and overall I was really happy but I felt like I wasn’t allowed to be. I kinda feel that way about the whole Alcohol Free thing right now. Like, if I mention it I’m going to be seen as bragging or that if I talk about the fact that I’m happy with the results of my six month experiment people are going to be all “but the world is on fire and you’re judging me for drinking my beer so eat a bag of nails.”

So, yeah. Have I mentioned that I have a lot of rejection issues that I need to work out with my therapist?

Anyway, I made the decision to try seeing what my life was like without alcohol last September after I read This Naked Mind by Annie Grace. There was a lot of stuff in that book that really resonated with me. I don’t know if I’d say it was really eye-opening for the most part, but there were definitely some things I hadn’t considered about alcohol and my relationship with it. Really, the biggest takeaway I have from reading that book and the subsequent research that I’ve done is that the entire concept of alcoholism is, frankly, bullshit. There’s no definitive science behind any one individual being more susceptible to being addicted to alcohol than any other (if people tell you there’s an “alcoholic gene” they are wrong…full stop). There are definitely personality traits that make someone more susceptible to alcohol, but those same traits are positive in other aspects of life. Take me, for example. When I decide I want to devote my time to something I’m all in. I don’t do things by half-measures. Sometimes it takes a lot of convincing to get me there, but if I say to myself that “this thing is something I should do” I do it. For me, that has led to a lot of positive in my life. But it also meant that when I decided I liked scotch I drank it neat and I didn’t stop at just one because as long as I was being responsible about it why would I? The problem is that alcohol is, at the end of the day, a dangerous and addictive drug. Combine that fact with a person who has an “all in” personality like mine, and…well.

There isn’t one thing that really made me re-evaluate my relationship with alcohol. I didn’t have a “rock bottom” moment. I didn’t lose my job or get into a car accident or hurt anyone or really anything dramatic like that. I have a list of things that I wrote down that caused me concern, but for the most part I’m keeping that list to myself. Honestly, one of the biggest things that was pulling me up short was my own vanity. I have a skin condition called Rosacea which is horribly acerbated by drinking. At some point in the last few years I ran into someone who I had not seen in a while who asked if I had been doing another show like Night of the Living Dead because my face was so messed up. Another comment that came my way was from a co-worker who asked if I had been in a car accident and hit my head on the windshield.

Yep. I’m vain enough to say that caused me to start thinking about things. I’ve struggled enough with my appearance because of my weight. I wasn’t real keen with there being yet another thing that I needed to be self-conscious about.

After a friend of mine posted about This Naked Mind on Facebook I added it to my Audible wish list and it sat there for a while. He mentioned it again last year and I decided to give it a read. I don’t want to sound hyperbolic by saying that reading it was life-changing, but it’s six months later and my life is definitely changed. My face has cleared up (although I had to get some laser treatments to reverse some of the damage I had done), I’ve lost 20 pounds or so, I’m sleeping better, I’m more focused, I have more money, and I’ve been able to make much more progress in therapy than I had prior to stopping (helps when you’re not imbibing a substance that adds to your anxiety on a daily basis).

I think the thing that really resonated the most with me about the book, and what helped me to so easily go alcohol free at the time, was the notion of spontaneous sobriety. It’s basically the idea that once your brain decides that something has literally no benefits for you whatsoever it’s easy to walk away from it. That happened with my Father, who was a heavy drinker for most of his life. One day he had An Event that caused him to realize that alcohol wasn’t good for him and he pretty much stopped immediately (no big secret on what The Event was…it was work related. He realized that drinking was impacting his professional life. My Dad took a huge amount of pride in his work, and always drew a line between drinking and working. When he realized that line no longer existed he stopped drinking immediately and never, as far as I’m aware, went back to it). For me, it was the simple act of reading This Naked Mind. I finished the book and went “Ah, yes. I see it now.”

And that’s where I am today.

Those who know about my decision have asked me whether or not I’m going to drink again. Only a Sith deals in absolutes, my friends, and I’d be foolish to think that I will never want to have another drink in my life. What I can say with absolute certainty is that when I think I might want a drink I am immediately reminded that alcohol literally brought nothing positive to my life and, in fact, brought quite a bit of negative. And the desire passes. For now.

As it relates to what’s going on the world right now? I’m really glad that stopped drinking when I did because the amount of money I’d be spending on scotch because I was stuck at home and distracting myself with booze would be…a lot. It’s bad enough I’m eating my way though this, but I was also using Intermittent Fasting prior to Stay At Home Fest 2020 so I’ve at least been able to stave off any weight gain so far. I can’t even imagine what my anxiety levels would be like, because they are pretty much off the chain as it is without alcohol being a factor.

Broken Tiles

It’s St. Patrick’s Day. Eight years ago today I met my wife for the first person at O’Keefe’s in Clearwater. It was one of the best days of my life.

A year ago today we were moving into our temporary home in a downtown St. Petersburg AirBNB while our floors were being done. It was less than two months after the suicide of my step-son, Christopher. They say that you shouldn’t make any major decisions in your life in the first year after losing someone to suicide, but I thought that since Christopher was my step-son I was immune from that. I was going to be able to be the strong one and keep the ship going while my wife grieved. I went into therapy myself a few months after we had the floors done, and I’ve realized in the months since how very wrong I was. I’ve always known that I was a “fixer,” but I didn’t realize how much that my desire to fix things had to do with me. The house I live in has always been a source of great comfort for me. If I can keep it clean, and neat, and organized, and well-maintained…well, the rest of the world could go to hell around me but I’d still have a place to seek comfort. Christopher’s suicide broke us. It broke our sense of peace. It broke our ability to take comfort in each other, and in our house. I realized this morning that my decision to get the floors fixed was an effort on my part to fix the psychological damage in our home. The broken tiles represented us. They were a constant reminder of the fact that we were not at all ok.

If I fixed them…maybe that would change.

It didn’t. The floors are beautiful, and I don’t regret our decision to get them, but our damage was still there when the workers had left and everything was cleaned up and put back into place. It’s still there now. We’re working on it. Both of us. As hard as we can. But it’s still there.

And then…

Today I’m physically in the office for what could be the last time in a very long time, with the world falling down around us as the COVID-19 pandemic continues to grow. Again, I find myself doing whatever I can to fix a situation that can’t be fixed. What can I buy to prepare ourselves? What can I do to prepare? How can I make what’s going on ok?

I can’t.

I’ve been putting on a brave face for all this, but it’s getting to me. I’m not OK. I’m not going to be OK if it gets a lot worse. I’m not cut out for this kind of thing.

This is the song stuck in my head today. It’s not a good angsty blog post without song lyrics, right?

Until I should die, until I should break
Not a god, not a devil my soul shall take
If I should lie to betray myself
Then I would damn myself, and my soul forsakeI don’t want fifteen minutes want a whole lot more
Don’t want to suffer the fools and the spoils of war
I don’t want fifteen minutes, or a reason why
I want a stainless steel road stretching off to the skyI don’t need sentiment, want, or hate on my mind
No crimes of passion or obsessions in kind
No walls, restraints, or momentary thrill
No blood on my hands, no time to killI want more body, I want more soul
Flip the switch to automatic, I want controlI want control
I want control
I want controlIf I should give in, if I should turn away
Not a god, not a devil my soul could save
I want more body, I want more soul
Flip the switch to automatic, I want controlI want control
I want control
I want controlI want control
I want control
(I want control) I want control